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Guilt is a Dominant’s Kryptonite

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Intro:

Thank you to all who have been a friend and shown support.

It’s time to introduce the “discussion” to “Spanking Discussion”

The reference on structure in D/s I referred to.

I. Recent self-revelation about the insidious and huge role that guilt has played in my psyche

A. Effects on D/s relationship

1. Unwillingness to command

a. Unworthy to command

b. Unwilling to impose a situation that might cause guilt in sub

2. Unwillingness to follow through or hold accountable

a. I wanted to be forgiven, so would pre-forgive

b. Incapable of following through because always tired and worn out

c. Unwilling to call sub on something because it might cause guilt in her

3. Resulted in general shame about myself

a. Lack of confidence, which isn’t sexy or generally appealing

b. Feeling my shame was a general defect, so no point in trying to improve

B. Feeling victimized by loved ones who definitely have no intention of victimizing you

1. Victimized when they express their pain or suffering (feeling responsible)

2. Lashing out at them when they are simply expressing their honest feelings

II. Solutions for me – my personal philosophy

A. Realization that pain/challenge is part of what’s needed for growth

B. Loving one another means the encouragement of growth, therefore we must challenge one another, sometimes painfully

C. Even if we wanted to, we can’t avoid causing one another pain or trouble

D. The attempt to remove all pain from loved ones is understandable, but in the end is destructive

1. Just let the motivation to do or not do a thing be love

2. Pain and challenge will be a natural result

3. In the context and support of your love, growth can happen as a result of any pain or trouble your loved one goes through

About Quai Franklin

Thinking and writing about spanking and corporal punishment for over 40 years (since age 5). I explore the topic on an imaginative, intellectual, erotic and experimental perspective.

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