I’ll be making daily posts from now until December 25th for the Advent season in cooperation with an effort inspired by the wonderful “el tercer ojo“.
Today I had a great time with friends on Twitter talking about some of the dark edges of what we like. Most of my friends on Twitter are kinky, spankos, and bloggers. So that’s great in an of itself. But for me, it’s really wonderful when I discover some commonality that I thought I was more of an outsider on.
Today that was about severity. One of my friends said she’d just received some very severe marks from play with her master, and was contemplating whether to post pics of them or not. Another friend posted a video of a real life spanking from a D/s couple, where it was so severe that the woman who was receiving the spanking was crying. Then the subject of back whipping came up. I can’t recall, but I may have brought that up. Back whipping can be controversial among, so-called purist spankos. I can understand that. Back whipping is not, strictly speaking, spanking. But for me, the same sexual sadism that makes me hot to see a woman spanked is carried over to seeing her tied and whipped across her back.
So I posted some links to videos of whipping scenes on youtube and Dailymotion of main stream and semi-main stream films. Again, severity was the theme. That severity takes me to a dark, but delicious place within me sexually. It has done so since I first realized I was sexually aroused by seeing girls spanked. If I witnessed a more severe spanking or even just heard about one from friends, I got this intense erotic heat within me, from the base of my spine up through my belly. It made me feel strong somehow, and primitive, and like a predator. The tantalizing underlying question being, “How can someone do this to a girl?” Just that question is enough to get me going with #SpankingFever.
But that brings me to the title of this post – “Perfect 10?”. Part of the reason I’ve called it a “fever” is that I can get into a mode where I’m searching for the perfect 10 in a spanking or whipping video scene. Honestly, I don’t even know if such a thing exists for me, but I get obsessed to a point where I can’t let it go until I’ve either found it, or I’ve gotten aroused enough that I have to go “do something about that”. I wonder if you have a “perfect 10” scene or maybe the template for it.
For me there are some necessary conditions.
The position has to be right. For a spanking this can be OTK or bent over something at a more or less natural angle. Closer to 90-degrees is better, but I can tolerate 45 (as is the case with several of the spanking machine videos ) or 135 (as is considered more the traditional birching position). But no diaper, no standing up straight, no chasing someone around the room with an implement. And I don’t what this is about, but I’m seeing some spankees bending over but tucking their butts under like they’re ashamed of it. Stop that or don’t be in spanking videos! I’m not judging, these are just my preferences. And if she won’t stay in position, tie her down. I don’t have time to sit by and watch while some Dom asserts “his will”. Get it organized and just do it.
I’ve got to see her face. No face, no joy.
After the necessary conditions, come the add-ons.
Tears are better, if they’re real. If not, second best is a good actress who can fake it well. Under no circumstances should a spanking model try to fake tears if they aren’t real and she can’t act. I don’t want to feel like I should be setting you down in your play pen with your teddy. (Nothing against age-players.)
The spankee doesn’t have to be a gorgeous knockout, but please at least have a booty. No booty, no joy.
I know it’s a lot to ask, but I like to have some idea how long the spanking is going to last. Sometimes I just need to plan my arousal around a schedule. ‘Nough said.
The cherry on top.
Severity. I love to see red bottoms, welts, bruises, realistic marks. Whatever other shortfalls there might be, if it looks like she’s really going through some painful punishment, a lot can be overlooked.
I’d love to hear what you think and what you look for.